I would like to share a bit of my personal story with you. I was married for 17 years with three beautiful sons. During which time I was heavily involved with many ministries. I taught marriage classes, parenting classes, leadership skills classes, and was a women’s ministries director.
One day my world came crashing down. My husband lost his job, was diagnosed with a mental health disorder and admitted to having a current sexual affair and two others from the past. I didn’t know what to do other than to try to fix this issue and get my life back. I stayed in this marriage to fight for my family for three years but eventually my husband cheated again. At this point I filed for divorce. I was completely unaware of things like sexual addiction, pornography addiction and intimacy avoidance (intimacy anorexia). I didn’t fully understand what an emotionally destructive marriage was. Nobody in my Christian sphere was able to guide me to the proper resources. I decided to begin my quest for healing and knowledge. I soon realized there was healing for this devastating pain that I was enduring and that I was not alone. I had come to realize that even when I previously thought my life was “normal” I was still missing the ability to connect with myself in a way that allowed me to see myself as God sees me. I was unable to reach my full potential with wholeness and peace. I was still trying to achieve inner peace by jumping through the hoops of others expectations instead of realizing my own resourcefulness and wholeness.